Ok ladies if you could teach a man one thing in bed what would it be ???????
Me >>>>
How to use his hands for more than grabbing ass and squeezingtits ……..
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Ladies if you could teach a man one thing in bed ????
I just had to reply to this!
For me, it's also got to be HOW TO USE HIS HANDS....nothing worse that being handled/rubbed/explored/f..gered by someone who's either poking around like he's rummaging through his sock drawer or scrubbing at you like he's trying to remove a stain. Gimme a pair of deliberate hands with a feel for lightness/pressure, a knowledge of when to slow down/when to speed up and, most of all, a good sense of rhythm. QUIT THAT STOPPING AND STARTING THING!!:doh:
ok, will shut up now as i can feel a rant coming on
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I just had to reply to this!
For me, it's also got to be HOW TO USE HIS HANDS....nothing worse that being handled/rubbed/explored/f..gered by someone who's either poking around like he's rummaging through his sock drawer or scrubbing at you like he's trying to remove a stain. Gimme a pair of deliberate hands with a feel for lightness/pressure, a knowledge of when to slow down/when to speed up and, most of all, a good sense of rhythm. QUIT THAT STOPPING AND STARTING THING!!:doh:
ok, will shut up now as i can feel a rant coming on
:giggle::giggle::giggle: yeah don't stop unless u are told to stop ffs
lol i can feel a male version of this post comin on
none of this.. sticking yer tongue in and jiggling it all about like yer feckin life depends on it... slow n steady wins the race 
Sexlightened
i find that it works if i say" it really turns me on if u do this to me"...what works for 1 woman is not the same for the next haaa,plus i guess the men are not mind readers,just as well iv a mind like sewage tank haaa..teach each other mmmm
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i find that it works if i say" it really turns me on if u do this to me"...what works for 1 woman is not the same for the next haaa,plus i guess the men are not mind readers,just as well iv a mind like sewage tank haaa..teach each other mmmm
lol i've a mind like that as well bernbabe
Quote by Daisy_star
How to kiss properly
none of this.. sticking yer tongue in and jiggling it all about like yer feckin life depends on it... slow n steady wins the race
Omg its all about the kissing...huge turn on if its done properly yum yum yummmmmmmmmm :lol:
And take things slowly...its not a race guys....
Casanova
i have to agree with you mimi its all about the kissing for me 
:lol: :lol:
:lol: :lol: 
Warming the Bed
Quote by upforitgirl
How to give oral... without imitating a dyson :uhohh:
ha ha lol so true
Having great sex is all about what you know and what you are willing to learn from each encounter ...I for one am willing to learn more with the right person in the right atmosphere ... lets try theses >>>>>>>>>>>
1. Always bring protection >>> You should never ever be in a position where you don't have a condom. You should always have some on hand. If you don't, Dont assume the person you are meeting has some .....
2. Being too aggressive >>>> We don't want you to zero on their clitoris like you are a laser guided missile. Instead, focus on turning the lady on. This will do more than running straight for the canal du stinky.......
3. Being too relaxed >>> We want a little spunk in their guy. We want to know that you are turning you on. Be brisk, but yet not too aggressive. You don't want to be so aggressive that you scare us away. If when you see us naked, it makes you feel like you haven't ate in weeks, go take a cold shower and return to the will wait ...
4. Touching too softly >>> We won't break if you touch us. If you touch us too softly we won't feel anything. Don't beat us, but use common sense. If we moans, it feels good, if we kicks you in the nuts, you are hurting ... less is more go slow and clean faster ....
5. Don't have rough fingernails >>> You should keep your nails trimmed and well kept. A woman doesn't like you touching her sensensitive areas if you have rough or long fingernails. This could cause small cuts or painful sores.
6. A wondering hand >>> A woman likes to be felt, but there is a point that you are overdoing it. Feeling us up isn't a sport, you don't get points if you can cover the same spot more than once......
7. Only going halfway down >>> If you are kissing her and leading down to her belly button, don't stop. This will only frustrate her. Instead, if you aren't going to go down, then doing head down there! Focus on kissing her instead.....
8. Don't just use your fingers >>>> If you are going down on her, the whole point is to use your mouth too. Don't just use your fingers. This will keep her begging for more and she will take care of it in the bathroom...... " yes we do "
9. No direction >>>> There is nothing worse than having sex with someone who just stares at the ceiling. Get out there and have some fun. You don't want to sit on the bench when you have worked so hard to score do you?
10. Slapping her ass. Women hate this. Unless you know for a fact this is a turn on, then don't do it. Women are so consumed with their asses and they always think that it is too fat. Also, this can bring up issues about her past if she was abused as a child.
11. Who is your daddy? >>>> We don't want to hear this. Some women like role playing in bed, but not this. No woman wants to have sex with a man who is calling himself her father.............
12. Did you have an orgasm? >>>> If you did, don't keep it a secret. Women like to know that they pleased their man. Unless they are half dead or drunk, they should be able to figure this one out on their own........
13. You ask her if she had an orgasm. Trust me, you will know if she does. No need to ask.......... if you dont you've got it wrong ......
14. Excuses >>>> We don't want to hear why you can't get it up. Be honest with us, don't make some lame excuse that she will know is a lie right away.... We are capable off understanding ......
15. She brings out her sex toy >>> Don't be fearful of this! There is no reason to be. Instead, enjoy watching us bring ourself to an orgasm.... join in and take over we can cum more than once you know ....
16. We like , want and need a cuddle afterwards to make us feel special ...dont you ? ...
1. Always bring protection >>> You should never ever be in a position where you don't have a condom. You should always have some on hand. If you don't, Dont assume the person you are meeting has some .....
2. Being too aggressive >>>> We don't want you to zero on their clitoris like you are a laser guided missile. Instead, focus on turning the lady on. This will do more than running straight for the canal du stinky.......
3. Being too relaxed >>> We want a little spunk in their guy. We want to know that you are turning you on. Be brisk, but yet not too aggressive. You don't want to be so aggressive that you scare us away. If when you see us naked, it makes you feel like you haven't ate in weeks, go take a cold shower and return to the will wait ...
4. Touching too softly >>> We won't break if you touch us. If you touch us too softly we won't feel anything. Don't beat us, but use common sense. If we moans, it feels good, if we kicks you in the nuts, you are hurting ... less is more go slow and clean faster ....
5. Don't have rough fingernails >>> You should keep your nails trimmed and well kept. A woman doesn't like you touching her sensensitive areas if you have rough or long fingernails. This could cause small cuts or painful sores.
6. A wondering hand >>> A woman likes to be felt, but there is a point that you are overdoing it. Feeling us up isn't a sport, you don't get points if you can cover the same spot more than once......
7. Only going halfway down >>> If you are kissing her and leading down to her belly button, don't stop. This will only frustrate her. Instead, if you aren't going to go down, then doing head down there! Focus on kissing her instead.....
8. Don't just use your fingers >>>> If you are going down on her, the whole point is to use your mouth too. Don't just use your fingers. This will keep her begging for more and she will take care of it in the bathroom...... " yes we do "
9. No direction >>>> There is nothing worse than having sex with someone who just stares at the ceiling. Get out there and have some fun. You don't want to sit on the bench when you have worked so hard to score do you?
10. Slapping her ass. Women hate this. Unless you know for a fact this is a turn on, then don't do it. Women are so consumed with their asses and they always think that it is too fat. Also, this can bring up issues about her past if she was abused as a child.
11. Who is your daddy? >>>> We don't want to hear this. Some women like role playing in bed, but not this. No woman wants to have sex with a man who is calling himself her father.............
12. Did you have an orgasm? >>>> If you did, don't keep it a secret. Women like to know that they pleased their man. Unless they are half dead or drunk, they should be able to figure this one out on their own........
13. You ask her if she had an orgasm. Trust me, you will know if she does. No need to ask.......... if you dont you've got it wrong ......
14. Excuses >>>> We don't want to hear why you can't get it up. Be honest with us, don't make some lame excuse that she will know is a lie right away.... We are capable off understanding ......
15. She brings out her sex toy >>> Don't be fearful of this! There is no reason to be. Instead, enjoy watching us bring ourself to an orgasm.... join in and take over we can cum more than once you know ....
16. We like , want and need a cuddle afterwards to make us feel special ...dont you ? ...
12 Things Women Do Wrong in Bed and How to Fix Them ....
Problem # 1:…. During foreplay and sexual intercourse, women tend not to touch a man enough. Sure, she may have her hands on him, but not everywhere he would like them to be.
Solution:…… Ideally, he wants you to touch his entire body with your hands during the course of foreplay and you would like for his hands to roam during intercourse as well. You may want to suggest a full body massage. If you really want to get creative and sensual at the same time, get some scented oils. Make sure that you're on the giving as well as the receiving end. You don't want to appear to be selfish and you always want to make sure she knows that you feel that you both should be pleased.
Lads if During sex, her hands aren't moving enough, communicate with her and be specific. Ask her to rub on your chest, for instance. Make sure she also knows that nipples are a sensual area for men as well as women. Some women don't realize this and men's nipples tend to get neglected.
Problem # 2:….. Women tend not to kiss enough. Kissing on the lips is not the problem, but women sometimes neglect the rest of the body.
Solution: ….. If you let her know that you like to be kissed all over, she'll probably have no issues with doing it. The problem is that women are programmed to think that men only want blowjobs and sex. While these things are amazing and one or both are the ultimate goal, there are other things men like. So, the big solution is communication. Tell her what you're looking for and be specific. Don't forget to mention that tongues are wonderful!
Problem # 3:……I'm not sure how it's possible, but women tend to ignore men's balls. They're right there, hanging down for all to see when a man is naked. How they get ignored is a mystery, but some women seem to forget all about them.
Solution:……. As a guy, you know that any sort of tender touch, whether it's with the hands or the mouth, feel incredible on your balls. You can gently take her hand and guide it to your balls so she gets the hint. Also, you may want to tell her that if she's giving a blowjob that it's a real turn on if her mouth and tongue wander on over to your balls once in a while.
Problem # 4:…… Men aren't totally selfish and insensitive. Part of a turn on for most men is pleasing the woman too. In order to do this, men need to know what their woman likes and dislikes. Women don't usually volunteer this information and it becomes a guessing game.
Solution: ………. The solution is very simple. Have a conversation with your partner about what she likes versus what she doesn't like. This also gives you an opportunity to volunteer what you like and don't like. Also, encourage her to communicate during sex or foreplay as to where she wants to be touched, kissed, etc.
Problem # 5: …….. A lot of men say that women are selfish. They want to be pleased, but don't care to do much to please a man.
Solution: ………. Rather than becoming resentful, you should realize and try to understand that a lot of women bide into the idea that men don't' really care for foreplay and the only thing that they want is sex. The first thing you can do is tell you partner what types of things you like during foreplay.
Get her stimulation up to a certain point and stop. Ask her to take a turn on you until you get to a certain stimulation point. Then you'll take another turn. This is exhilarating for both people involved. Try it if you haven't already. I think you'll both be pleased with the results.
Problem # 6:……. A lot of women leave it up to the man to be responsible for safe sex. They leave it up to the man to have a stock of condoms. What ever happened to women's lib and taking control of the situation themselves?
Solution: …….. It's important to remember that no one likes it when someone finds fault with them. So, this issue shouldn't be posed as if she's done anything wrong. Preferably, a good time to bring up the issue of condoms would be before sex ever occurs.
If you have an opportunity like this and you're talking about the possibility of sex, you may want to casually mention that it really impresses you when a woman takes the initiative to have condoms on hand. Since she wants to impress you, she will most likely purchase some to keep on hand.
If you're already sexually active with a woman, you can try the same approach. If she asks if it bothers you that you're always the one responsible, you can say that it just impresses you when a woman takes the responsibility. She will also most likely take the hint without getting her feelings hurt.
Problem # 7: …… A lot of men complain about the 'dead fish syndrome'. That is pretty descriptive and we all know that means that during sex, the woman doesn't move at all.
Solution: ……. Tell her that you love to see her turned on and that it turns you on more. Ask her if she could get into it during sex a little more so that your bodies can move together. You can also explain that if she moves more during sex, it will increase the sensation for her as well.
Problem # 8: …….. Some women don't appear to be very adventurous and only want to have sex in the missionary position.
Solution: …….. When you're not in the heat of passion, ask them what sexual positions they've tried and which ones they like. Also, at this time, you can tell them which positions you like. Also, volunteer to try new and exciting positions that neither of you have tried.
Problem # 9: ……. Women aren't aggressive enough during sex or foreplay.
Solution: …… Did you know that a lot of women have never even tried being aggressive ? It may have never even crossed their minds. You could start by asking them if they've ever been aggressive during sex and tell them that once in a while it's a turn on for you.
If they feel uncomfortable or unsure, reassure them that though it may feel funny at first it might be exhilarating for them. You can start them out slow and tell them that you'd like to see them grab you and force you down on the bed. If that works out, you can move on from there later on.
Problem # 10: …… Some women don't make noise during sex. What does that mean? It might make you feel a little self conscious.
Solution: ………. Tell her that if she makes a little noise during sex, it heightens things for you and it also lets you know that you're pleasing her. Be prepared that she may ask the same from you. Make sure that you're prepared to deliver.
Problem # 11: …… Some women aren't open to experimentation and aren't creative enough in the bedroom. They seem to be more than creative enough in other areas of their life, but in the bedroom they have little or no imagination.
Solution: ….. Tell her that you'd be interested in trying new things. Don't expect her to come up with ideas right away as she might have some sort of mental block due to some sexual hang-ups that are beyond her control. If you can come up with some ideas that she's willing to try, she may open up later and have some suggestions. Make it clear to her that you're willing to hear and try things that she may suggest.
Don't be too freaky at first. Suggest things like having sex somewhere other than the bedroom. Try bringing food into your sexual experiences. If she's receptive to these things, you can move up to bigger things later.
Problem # 12: ……. She wants to cuddle too much after sex; sometimes all night.
Solution: ……. Sorry, LOL. There is no solution for this one. Anything that you try to do to get out of it is going to make you look like a total creep. So, just deal with it and realize that it's something that makes her feel secure and special. Basically, suck it up, be a man and be her 'cuddle bunny' for the entire night.
The biggest thing to remember in a more pleasurable sexual experience for yourself is that you must communicate with your partner
Problem # 1:…. During foreplay and sexual intercourse, women tend not to touch a man enough. Sure, she may have her hands on him, but not everywhere he would like them to be.
Solution:…… Ideally, he wants you to touch his entire body with your hands during the course of foreplay and you would like for his hands to roam during intercourse as well. You may want to suggest a full body massage. If you really want to get creative and sensual at the same time, get some scented oils. Make sure that you're on the giving as well as the receiving end. You don't want to appear to be selfish and you always want to make sure she knows that you feel that you both should be pleased.
Lads if During sex, her hands aren't moving enough, communicate with her and be specific. Ask her to rub on your chest, for instance. Make sure she also knows that nipples are a sensual area for men as well as women. Some women don't realize this and men's nipples tend to get neglected.
Problem # 2:….. Women tend not to kiss enough. Kissing on the lips is not the problem, but women sometimes neglect the rest of the body.
Solution: ….. If you let her know that you like to be kissed all over, she'll probably have no issues with doing it. The problem is that women are programmed to think that men only want blowjobs and sex. While these things are amazing and one or both are the ultimate goal, there are other things men like. So, the big solution is communication. Tell her what you're looking for and be specific. Don't forget to mention that tongues are wonderful!
Problem # 3:……I'm not sure how it's possible, but women tend to ignore men's balls. They're right there, hanging down for all to see when a man is naked. How they get ignored is a mystery, but some women seem to forget all about them.
Solution:……. As a guy, you know that any sort of tender touch, whether it's with the hands or the mouth, feel incredible on your balls. You can gently take her hand and guide it to your balls so she gets the hint. Also, you may want to tell her that if she's giving a blowjob that it's a real turn on if her mouth and tongue wander on over to your balls once in a while.
Problem # 4:…… Men aren't totally selfish and insensitive. Part of a turn on for most men is pleasing the woman too. In order to do this, men need to know what their woman likes and dislikes. Women don't usually volunteer this information and it becomes a guessing game.
Solution: ………. The solution is very simple. Have a conversation with your partner about what she likes versus what she doesn't like. This also gives you an opportunity to volunteer what you like and don't like. Also, encourage her to communicate during sex or foreplay as to where she wants to be touched, kissed, etc.
Problem # 5: …….. A lot of men say that women are selfish. They want to be pleased, but don't care to do much to please a man.
Solution: ………. Rather than becoming resentful, you should realize and try to understand that a lot of women bide into the idea that men don't' really care for foreplay and the only thing that they want is sex. The first thing you can do is tell you partner what types of things you like during foreplay.
Get her stimulation up to a certain point and stop. Ask her to take a turn on you until you get to a certain stimulation point. Then you'll take another turn. This is exhilarating for both people involved. Try it if you haven't already. I think you'll both be pleased with the results.
Problem # 6:……. A lot of women leave it up to the man to be responsible for safe sex. They leave it up to the man to have a stock of condoms. What ever happened to women's lib and taking control of the situation themselves?
Solution: …….. It's important to remember that no one likes it when someone finds fault with them. So, this issue shouldn't be posed as if she's done anything wrong. Preferably, a good time to bring up the issue of condoms would be before sex ever occurs.
If you have an opportunity like this and you're talking about the possibility of sex, you may want to casually mention that it really impresses you when a woman takes the initiative to have condoms on hand. Since she wants to impress you, she will most likely purchase some to keep on hand.
If you're already sexually active with a woman, you can try the same approach. If she asks if it bothers you that you're always the one responsible, you can say that it just impresses you when a woman takes the responsibility. She will also most likely take the hint without getting her feelings hurt.
Problem # 7: …… A lot of men complain about the 'dead fish syndrome'. That is pretty descriptive and we all know that means that during sex, the woman doesn't move at all.
Solution: ……. Tell her that you love to see her turned on and that it turns you on more. Ask her if she could get into it during sex a little more so that your bodies can move together. You can also explain that if she moves more during sex, it will increase the sensation for her as well.
Problem # 8: …….. Some women don't appear to be very adventurous and only want to have sex in the missionary position.
Solution: …….. When you're not in the heat of passion, ask them what sexual positions they've tried and which ones they like. Also, at this time, you can tell them which positions you like. Also, volunteer to try new and exciting positions that neither of you have tried.
Problem # 9: ……. Women aren't aggressive enough during sex or foreplay.
Solution: …… Did you know that a lot of women have never even tried being aggressive ? It may have never even crossed their minds. You could start by asking them if they've ever been aggressive during sex and tell them that once in a while it's a turn on for you.
If they feel uncomfortable or unsure, reassure them that though it may feel funny at first it might be exhilarating for them. You can start them out slow and tell them that you'd like to see them grab you and force you down on the bed. If that works out, you can move on from there later on.
Problem # 10: …… Some women don't make noise during sex. What does that mean? It might make you feel a little self conscious.
Solution: ………. Tell her that if she makes a little noise during sex, it heightens things for you and it also lets you know that you're pleasing her. Be prepared that she may ask the same from you. Make sure that you're prepared to deliver.
Problem # 11: …… Some women aren't open to experimentation and aren't creative enough in the bedroom. They seem to be more than creative enough in other areas of their life, but in the bedroom they have little or no imagination.
Solution: ….. Tell her that you'd be interested in trying new things. Don't expect her to come up with ideas right away as she might have some sort of mental block due to some sexual hang-ups that are beyond her control. If you can come up with some ideas that she's willing to try, she may open up later and have some suggestions. Make it clear to her that you're willing to hear and try things that she may suggest.
Don't be too freaky at first. Suggest things like having sex somewhere other than the bedroom. Try bringing food into your sexual experiences. If she's receptive to these things, you can move up to bigger things later.
Problem # 12: ……. She wants to cuddle too much after sex; sometimes all night.
Solution: ……. Sorry, LOL. There is no solution for this one. Anything that you try to do to get out of it is going to make you look like a total creep. So, just deal with it and realize that it's something that makes her feel secure and special. Basically, suck it up, be a man and be her 'cuddle bunny' for the entire night.
The biggest thing to remember in a more pleasurable sexual experience for yourself is that you must communicate with your partner
