Something I have always wondered about.. the 'experts' always say that sex for women is always an emotional as well as a physical experience as opposed to our male countertparts where it is mainly a physical one... so i guess the question i am really asking is can we really have sex just for the physical act or do emotions come into play.. perhaps maybe one for the singles as opposed to the couples...what do ye think ?
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is it just about the sex ...
That's an interesting question Upforitgirl. It's actually something I have been thinking about for a while recently.
Personally, its not just about the sex any more. It is an emotional thing too. Of course I've done the wham bam thank you mam stuff. If they walked into the room now I wouldn't remember them stuff, but anybody can fuck - fucking is easy.
Perhaps as you do this for a while the emotional side kicks in more. I really enjoy the company of fellow swingers. Its good to know I'm not the only who is highly charged. All the best meets I have had involve the emotional strings being plucked and sometimes quite beautifully (grin).
FH
Yes I definitely think emotions are involved. When you meet someone you really connect with, the more you spend intimate time with them, the more emotions are stirred. For us women it's all because of oxytocin, a hormone released at orgasm and also the same one when breatfeeding. It bonds you to your child and also your "mate."
So, in my experience the more I orgasm with someone, The stronger My bonding instinct is. But don't get me wrong, we are still rational people( most of the time) so we can by pass this and have NSA sex..
Yes I've done the wham bam stuff too, but find the meets that are repeats and just that little bit more much more fulfilling!
Happy swinging!
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Orgasminator
Uppy great topic huni I think your right that it would be more for singles as most cpls swinging are mainly in it for the sex, in saying that I am sure there are cpls that get stirred emotions too ...for us its just the thrill of NSA sex with others :swingingchair::swingingchair:
I can totally understand that for singles who meet on here it must be hard not to have emotions, as humans we are conditioned to seek a partner etc ..will be good to see all the comments on this topic....love is in the air :inlove::inlove:
Warming the Bed
Well being a single guy here I can say I won't bang just anyone, I insist on a coffee meet n a chat n if we click n get along I'll go in for the kill, if we don't I'll be polite n say your not for me, so I guess to answer there has to be a little emotion, however.......in a party scenario I could see one getting carried away in the moment n not doing the usual pre meet interview if that makes sense?
On the gender divide - in my experience guys have been the ones pushing to blur the lines beyond 'just sex'...
Examples include them saying things like "I've never felt this way about anyone before" (I found out later he tells everyone that) or "Sometimes I go out of my way to drive past your house even when I know you're not home because it makes me smile" (backs slowly away), to guys who start to want to hang out in a non-meet context i.e. get a drink/go to a play/go for brunch/see a band together...
My running joke is why is it so hard to find someone into no strings attached? 
My theory is that it's about intensity - one of the things I was surprised to learn when I first joined here, was that even though the sex was amazing, it didn't quite have the same feel of being with just one other person who you're totally into. I guess once you know what that's like you miss it - and with guys like the above you try and 'fake' it.
Also with the way things work here - there's often a whole lot of chatting going on prior to a meet (I'd estimate a lead time of a month on average but sometimes way more!) - so I don't see how you could not have some kind of emotions going on by the time you meet up... Unless there are guys who say the same thing to every girl/run the same game and don't care about anyone else but themselves - but that's a whole other rant altogether! 
My theory is that it's about intensity - one of the things I was surprised to learn when I first joined here, was that even though the sex was amazing, it didn't quite have the same feel of being with just one other person who you're totally into. I guess once you know what that's like you miss it - and with guys like the above you try and 'fake' it.
Also with the way things work here - there's often a whole lot of chatting going on prior to a meet (I'd estimate a lead time of a month on average but sometimes way more!) - so I don't see how you could not have some kind of emotions going on by the time you meet up... Unless there are guys who say the same thing to every girl/run the same game and don't care about anyone else but themselves - but that's a whole other rant altogether! I was single once and i have to say it was just about sex for me then and it is the same now. I have a partner so i am not looking for emotions, i met my husband many years ago and i knew i wanted more than just sex with him but in my swinging life as both a single and now a cpl i just look for sex as does my hubby. It is a swing site after all and not a dating site.
