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how to ask my wife
Im no agony aunt, but I wouldnt throw her in at the deep end. Talk to her first, tell her about this site. Bring her online and show her this site. Id suggest that you tell her about your swing fantasies and ask her if she would be interested. Gently does it. You may scare her off by taking her to a club or a party without her knowing what the tone and setting of the party actually intails.
May I suggest you don't 'just bring her to a club or a party and see what happens'.
I would suggest the idea of swinging to her first of all and see what her reaction to that is, then take it from there. Then again I'm no expert having never had to introduce a partner to swing.
Best of luck with it. :thumbup:
I would suggest the idea of swinging to her first of all and see what her reaction to that is, then take it from there. Then again I'm no expert having never had to introduce a partner to swing.
Best of luck with it. :thumbup:
Warming the Bed
or you can look at the guide to swinging posted in the main main menu link.
Sit her down and tell her you cannot get enough of her. Knowing that there is only one of her, you can only settle for the next best thing — her best friend. Assure her that, far from being an issue, this can bring you closer together. Suggest getting some of her old school friends involved too? If she is still apprehensive, maybe suggest she should let you be with her friends without you. If she's still not sure then just get her to give you a blow job and cook you a nice meal while she thinks about it. :grin:
and on a more serious note - sorry - I have no idea, but I'm dying to know how you got on...
and on a more serious note - sorry - I have no idea, but I'm dying to know how you got on...
Sex God
Your initial idea is a big no no as it can ...and will go tits up in so many ways, I think post shag pillow talk is the best way to breach the subject, you have to ease into it gently and accept her initial response...and be prepared for loads of questions to as why you want to go down that route and what 'inspired you'.....also have that granny flat Idea on the back burner in case it does all fail miserably.
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Sit her down and tell her you cannot get enough of her. Knowing that there is only one of her, you can only settle for the next best thing — her best friend. Assure her that, far from being an issue, this can bring you closer together. Suggest getting some of her old school friends involved too? If she is still apprehensive, maybe suggest she should let you be with her friends without you. If she's still not sure then just get her to give you a blow job and cook you a nice meal while she thinks about it. :grin:
and on a more serious note - sorry - I have no idea, but I'm dying to know how you got on...
:laughabove:
Sexlightened
it took my husband months of talking for me to get up the nerve to do it good luck you need it
Kirish, I believe we have discussed this at length before...but anyway...
When I joined the site it was with a very clear agenda – to ressurrect a sex life after the break up of a long term relationship without any of the emotional involvement or energy required for a realtionship – in other words, NSA. I also wanted to push my sexual boundries – have new sexual experiences that I (rightly) believed I might find on a swing site.
I did not join to shag other women’s boyfriends or husbands behind their backs. I also didn’t come here to judge others so I’ll say no more on that. Each to their own.
I strongly believe that the swing site should be a non judgemental place for people to pursue our sexual preferences in a safe environment. I believe honesty among us is an integral part of that; and I believe that I should have the right to choose whether to swing with an attached man or not. That choice is removed when people lie on their profiles about their status.
I understand that people have their reasons for being here and attached people are here for a variety of reasons. As I say, I do not judge them, and some of my favourite people on the site attached. However, attached people should also respect that some of us, for a variety of our own reasons, choose not to play with attached people, and if they are not upfront about their status – as far as I am concerned they are not respecting us.
When I joined the site it was with a very clear agenda – to ressurrect a sex life after the break up of a long term relationship without any of the emotional involvement or energy required for a realtionship – in other words, NSA. I also wanted to push my sexual boundries – have new sexual experiences that I (rightly) believed I might find on a swing site.
I did not join to shag other women’s boyfriends or husbands behind their backs. I also didn’t come here to judge others so I’ll say no more on that. Each to their own.
I strongly believe that the swing site should be a non judgemental place for people to pursue our sexual preferences in a safe environment. I believe honesty among us is an integral part of that; and I believe that I should have the right to choose whether to swing with an attached man or not. That choice is removed when people lie on their profiles about their status.
I understand that people have their reasons for being here and attached people are here for a variety of reasons. As I say, I do not judge them, and some of my favourite people on the site attached. However, attached people should also respect that some of us, for a variety of our own reasons, choose not to play with attached people, and if they are not upfront about their status – as far as I am concerned they are not respecting us.
Mr -
Hey honey do you think our sex life is spiced up enough ?
Mrs -
I love our sex life hun …why do u ask ?
Mr -
I love our sex life to babe put have a feeling we are missing out on more …
Mrs -
Why would you say that hun ?
Mr -
Well I was reading and article on swinging in Ireland and I must say I am curious ….
Mrs -
Why do am I not enough for you ?
Mr -
Oh god yes hun you are the only one ill ever love put I feel we can get more from life …..
Mrs -
Hmmm well lets learn more cant hurt to look can it ……..
One year later …………
Very happy ........In life , in love and in swing ...
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Honesty is the best policy ......
Very happy ........In life , in love and in swing ... .....................................
Honesty is the best policy ...... Quote by user=Eden
Kirish, I believe we have discussed this at length before...but anyway...
When I joined the site it was with a very clear agenda – to ressurrect a sex life after the break up of a long term relationship without any of the emotional involvement or energy required for a realtionship – in other words, NSA. I also wanted to push my sexual boundries – have new sexual experiences that I (rightly) believed I might find on a swing site.
I did not join to shag other women’s boyfriends or husbands behind their backs. I also didn’t come here to judge others so I’ll say no more on that. Each to their own.
I strongly believe that the swing site should be a non judgemental place for people to pursue our sexual preferences in a safe environment. I believe honesty among us is an integral part of that; and I believe that I should have the right to choose whether to swing with an attached man or not. That choice is removed when people lie on their profiles about their status.
I understand that people have their reasons for being here and attached people are here for a variety of reasons. As I say, I do not judge them, and some of my favourite people on the site attached. However, attached people should also respect that some of us, for a variety of our own reasons, choose not to play with attached people, and if they are not upfront about their status – as far as I am concerned they are not respecting us.
My reply above was a bit curt you may have got me on a bad day, be below is a more considered reply
First of all the original poster did not come on to discuss his marital status. I felt your post was completely irrelevant to the original question.
Yes we have discussed this before, I fully respect your position not to play with married men. My Profile is as a single man, but my status is "almost single" when people ask me (if we are interested in playing) I tell them what my situation is no lies or bullshit.
The reason I responded to your post is that I feel that you have to much interest in other peoples status. We chatted earlier on and I told you I was attached you told me you would have no interest in playing, that's fine by me. You have brought up the subject in chat and in the forums several times so it seems to be a hot topic with you.
We are all here for our own reasons and all arrive as a results of different if similar circumstances.
When someone asks a question in a post I think you should either answer the question or give your opinion if that opinion is related to the originals post. I don't feel you have any right to question his/her marital status or reasons for being here.
Nobody gives out full and accurate information on their profile. We don't give our real names, very few of the people here are actually looking for the same thing they state on their profile so I suggest you use their profile to give you an indication if they are your type after that get to know them in chat or and a M&G or in Private message.
I agree that this should be a relaxed and non judgemental site but that means you should not judge other people and their own reason for being here.
Ladies and gentlemen, we have now come to our main event.
This bout will be fought over three rounds, and is for the S4I World Championship Belt
Fighting out of the blue corner, with a smile that even Stevie Wonder can see is the ever dazzling and attractive Eden :lick:
Fighting out of the red corner, being weighed down with a huge chip on his shoulder is the ever entertaining Kirishlad
Let's get ready to rummmmblllle!!!!!
Seconds out, round 1 
Let's get ready to rummmmblllle!!!!!
Seconds out, round 1 Quote by user=alicolwic
Ladies and gentlemen, we have now come to our main event.
This bout will be fought over three rounds, and is for the S4I World Championship Belt
Fighting out of the blue corner, with a smile that even Stevie Wonder can see is the ever dazzling and attractive Eden :lick:
Fighting out of the red corner, being weighed down with a huge chip on his shoulder is the ever entertaining Kirishlad
Let's get ready to rummmmblllle!!!!!
Seconds out, round 1
I will have you know im a very well balanced individual I have a chip on both shoulders
8) Sorry this is confusing - I'm too technologically inept to have it two tone as I was hoping My reply above was a bit curt you may have got me on a bad day, be below is a more considered reply
First of all the original poster did not come on to discuss his marital status. I felt your post was completely irrelevant to the original question.
Yes we have discussed this before, I fully respect your position not to play with married men. My Profile is as a single man, but my status is "almost single" when people ask me (if we are interested in playing) I tell them what my situation is no lies or bullshit.
So you and I are on the same page then – That’s all I’m asking - attached people to be upfront about their status – like you are – you’re even more blunt about it than I am – I’d be afraid to use the words “no lies or bullshit†because I get crucified for expressing myself in far more diplomatic terms.
The reason I responded to your post is that I feel that you have too much interest in other people’s status. We chatted earlier on and I told you I was attached you told me you would have no interest in playing, that's fine by me. You have brought up the subject in chat and in the forums several times so it seems to be a hot topic with you.
This is not about you – you admit that you’re attached and respectfully accept if women tell you that they’re not interested in playing as have many other attached men who I’m proud to call friends on this site. That is not my issue. I disagree that I have too much interest in other people’s status. I simply believe that attached people on the site should be honest about their status so that those of us who do not wish to play with attached people can make that decision. I categorically deny that I have brought this up many times – I have had one chat room discussion about this, and have only ever asked people to be upfront about their status on the forums once, maybe twice.
We are all here for our own reasons and all arrive as a result of different if similar circumstances.
I agree. Wholeheartedly.
When someone asks a question in a post I think you should either answer the question or give your opinion if that opinion is related to the originals post. I don't feel you have any right to question his/her marital status or reasons for being here.
Freedom of speech might says that I do have the right. At no point have I questioned anyone’s reason for being here and I believe I do have the right to ask why someone might be misleading me or other site members.
Nobody gives out full and accurate information on their profile. We don't give our real names, very few of the people here are actually looking for the same thing they state on their profile
I disagree. I think profiles are generally pretty truthful, apart from perhaps possibly shaving (or adding) a year or two off our ages. Other than that the only real scope for lying is in the status column. I don’t understand your point about real names – of course I don’t expect people to tell me anything personal – I just object to what you refer to as “lies and bullshitâ€.
so I suggest you use their profile to give you an indication if they are your type after that get to know them in chat or and a M&G or in Private message.
That’s exactly what I want to do but if profiles have “lies or bullshit†on them, it’s not very reliable is it?
I agree that this should be a relaxed and non judgemental site but that means you should not judge other people and their own reason for being here.
I take huge offence that you accuse me of judging other people and their reasons for being here. I repeat that I simply believe that I should have the right to choose whether to swing with an attached person or not. That choice is removed when people lie on their profiles about their status so I ask that people are upfront about their status. I think that’s a perfectly reasonable request.
First of all the original poster did not come on to discuss his marital status. I felt your post was completely irrelevant to the original question.
Yes we have discussed this before, I fully respect your position not to play with married men. My Profile is as a single man, but my status is "almost single" when people ask me (if we are interested in playing) I tell them what my situation is no lies or bullshit.
So you and I are on the same page then – That’s all I’m asking - attached people to be upfront about their status – like you are – you’re even more blunt about it than I am – I’d be afraid to use the words “no lies or bullshit†because I get crucified for expressing myself in far more diplomatic terms.
The reason I responded to your post is that I feel that you have too much interest in other people’s status. We chatted earlier on and I told you I was attached you told me you would have no interest in playing, that's fine by me. You have brought up the subject in chat and in the forums several times so it seems to be a hot topic with you.
This is not about you – you admit that you’re attached and respectfully accept if women tell you that they’re not interested in playing as have many other attached men who I’m proud to call friends on this site. That is not my issue. I disagree that I have too much interest in other people’s status. I simply believe that attached people on the site should be honest about their status so that those of us who do not wish to play with attached people can make that decision. I categorically deny that I have brought this up many times – I have had one chat room discussion about this, and have only ever asked people to be upfront about their status on the forums once, maybe twice.
We are all here for our own reasons and all arrive as a result of different if similar circumstances.
I agree. Wholeheartedly.
When someone asks a question in a post I think you should either answer the question or give your opinion if that opinion is related to the originals post. I don't feel you have any right to question his/her marital status or reasons for being here.
Freedom of speech might says that I do have the right. At no point have I questioned anyone’s reason for being here and I believe I do have the right to ask why someone might be misleading me or other site members.
Nobody gives out full and accurate information on their profile. We don't give our real names, very few of the people here are actually looking for the same thing they state on their profile
I disagree. I think profiles are generally pretty truthful, apart from perhaps possibly shaving (or adding) a year or two off our ages. Other than that the only real scope for lying is in the status column. I don’t understand your point about real names – of course I don’t expect people to tell me anything personal – I just object to what you refer to as “lies and bullshitâ€.
so I suggest you use their profile to give you an indication if they are your type after that get to know them in chat or and a M&G or in Private message.
That’s exactly what I want to do but if profiles have “lies or bullshit†on them, it’s not very reliable is it?
I agree that this should be a relaxed and non judgemental site but that means you should not judge other people and their own reason for being here.
I take huge offence that you accuse me of judging other people and their reasons for being here. I repeat that I simply believe that I should have the right to choose whether to swing with an attached person or not. That choice is removed when people lie on their profiles about their status so I ask that people are upfront about their status. I think that’s a perfectly reasonable request.
