I spend a couple of hours going through profiles last night and picked out four that I thought might be suitable for what I am looking for at the moment and what they are looking for. Taking into account location and age etc aswell. I read all the reviews and if they were established and if they have been recently on the site etc etc. Anyway it took quite a while which is fine, when I eventually picked out 4, I sent a mail to them briefly describing myself and what I was looking for i.e. maybe to have a chat online first and let them see me if they thought they might be interested. This morning when I logged on 2 out of the 4 had read the mail (no answer) I sent which I thought was a good result so far. I then logged into chat and low and behold both ladies who had read my mail were online so I started chatting to them, I asked the first lady if she got my mail and that I hoped she didnâ??t mind me sending it and her reply was I donâ??t read my mails I just delete then straight away and that is her .perogative I have no problem with that. I asked the second lady the same thing and she said she does not meet people over 30 (she is mid 30â??s and I am 43) which is fair enough, no probs with that. What did annoy me a little was that they did not say these things on there profile. Maybe I am being a bit petty here but I just feel sorry for the two other ladies that would have had the pleasure maybe of finding my mail there in the morning!!!
Robbie,
I have to say I have similar issue with cpls that have ticked off all the boxes for who they are meeting, and then have 'We don't meet single males' at the bottom.
I mean how hard is it to uncheck a box? The same people cry blue murder then if a guy makes an approach to them in the chat room.
I think all you need to do is give a decent description of you as a person, then state what your looking for.
Don't get me started on the regularly active 'will fill this later' accounts that are here since 2006 and 2007!!!!
Well robbie once upon a time I had written a detailed profile in relation to what I was looking for....
1. I still recieved emails for the opposite of what I had said I was looking for.
2. I got abusive emails saying I was too picky blah blah bullsox.....
Now I could go on and on but I won't so now as you can see I have on my profile 'Not saying much as you won't read it anyway lol', it works for me. :angel:
I think our profile is pretty straight forward.
All we would ask from other profiles is that they state if the person is bi, as we have seen so many that say straight but next thing you know your told they are bi!
Makes us very wary of meeting ppl like that as we have had so many tell us they are bi really but when they come up they suddenly turn straight, and we do tend to cam before a meet so they can see what is on offer.
It doesn't matter what you In all my time on this site, I found that no one seemed to be bothered reading them, even though I was careful to state what exactly my preferences were, but in saying that I have to be honest, I had some great meets with poeple who just contacted on speck.
Well Robbie hun at least u didn't waste too much ink writing yours
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:giggle: Same as me veryhornyone...not much room on this commodore 64 of mine :giggle:
At least we know u can last 4 hours avgj
(& 64 Commodores sound fun, even if a little excessive on the seamen front...)
I write a very detailed profile, but some people don't seem to read it gauging from the emails I get. Still... I prefer to write a detailed one as it'll give people who do read profiles an idea of what I'm like and what I'm looking for. I used to have more pics up, but had to take most down as they seem to be a magnet for picture collectors..
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great mail Robbie, like you I have done a similiar exercise, carefully searching & reading, I am not one to "spam mail" all the ladies or couples on the site.
As Titan pointed out many people do seem to tick all the boxes when in reality they have a limited interest, and often provide little salient detail in their profile, but as Amber & Virgo also point out, many guys appear to have dyslexia & dont read past the first few words or get distracted by the pictures.
it is indeed dis-heartening to have been diligent, put the work in & to recieve none or negative replies ... but at least you are trying
Having information on your profile is no guarantee that it will be read or even when you send mails for that matter as i've found out recently people don't read those properly either at times but i think it can only help you find the kind of person you are looking for in the long run.
Chance Favours The Prepared Mind
Well I do prefer to have a detailed profile written that way I can always tell the ones who actually take the time to read it from the ones who scroll right down to the pics....and always have recourse to say well if you had read my profie you would know lol lol I think it gives more insight into the type of person I am and what I am actually looking for ..just my two cents....................xxxxxxxanny
In my experience I can safely say about 5% of the people who mail me have actually read my profile. I started life on this site with a single female profile, and I still have it, but it states quite clearly that I am in a relationship and not looking to meet anyone on my own, however I continue to get a barrage of emails with one liners such as 'Hey babe, fancy a f*ck?'. In short the answer is no, and I'm sure you'd get the same reply from the 200 other women you sent the same mail to! If you are actually interested in having sex with someone off the site, have a bit of respect for them, send them an email that clearly indicates you've actually taken the time to read their profile, and treat them as a human being not a piece of meat!
In summary, in a lot of cases people go to a lot of effort write detailed profiles disclosing information about themselves in order to let prospective meets know what they are / are not interested in, and the sort of person / people they are looking for. Do the decent thing and take time to read it before sending a mail, and then complaining about not getting a response.
BTW this is not a dig at single males as I'm sure there are probably women and couples who do exactly the same thing!
I agree with the aforegoing posters. A detailed profile is great - for those who actually read a proper profile. But for the 'wank-blind and boner-lazy feckers' you may as well write the alphabet backwards - they will scan the pics and mail you/or not - if there's an 'r' in the month.
Typically, the following is a mail I received recently from a 'new couple' on site - despite my profile clearly stating that I don't play with other people's toys - and meet only single/unattached guys!! Go Figure!!
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"Hi were a hot couple looking for someone to join in for some serious fun.. check out our profile and let me know as ur profile looks nice..... "
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Very often boob and ass shots are all that is needed:grin::grin:
What!!!! We all have profiles???? OMG lol
I was wondering though - if you had not mentioned it in "Chat" to the recipients and just waited, would you have got a reply in time and did they just say they deleted cos they percieved you to be pushy?? Just a question
Emmmm well to me, I'm finding there seems to be a good quantity of people that actually do read profiles, (have to say I've no real description written on my profile as it happens, so if I did, I could very well find out that some aren't paying attention if they reply to me and not meet my description criteria lol!)
But my point is, sorry I'm going away from the thread a bit now I know, but just wanted to point out, that there are members on here that solely do browse profiles for the purpose of sending interested parties/others messages.
I get loadsa messages from what I call total "Randomers" - folk that I've never spoken to before or ever seen in the Chat-rooms, so in a way, this "group" or category of people out there, may want to get to know you because they've looked at your profile ....
Just from a slightly different angle, so as to acknowledge message senders that have looked at your profile lol
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