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Ok folks.......I have been wanting to put up a thread like this for a while now. Over my time here I have been asked a few questions and had a few questions of my own.............so I think its about time that we set up a question and answer thread. I would like this thread to be informative and lighthearted to encourage those who might have a question.....to put it forward to nonjugdemental posters. We might think that a question is simple or indeed say...omg.....did that person not know that.....but hey.....if one person doesnt know the answer.....you can be damned sure there are at least a handful of others who dont know it either. I was asked recently by someone if he had to use a condom for anal sex. So let that be the first question and answer...... Condoms are needed for anal sex STI's can be caught through unprotected anal sex as easily as through vaginal sex. so......who;s next to share a question......or share an answer to a question they themselves have been asked......or indeed......tips for the guys and gals on techniques are also helpful.
Great thread Mona I am sure people have many questions
As for the Condom question ...
Condoms are needed ... END OF
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good tread Dedemona but i totally agree with you and Alan :thumbup: condoms are a must all the time
banghead:ALAN WHERES YOUR QUESTION ? WELL ONE ID LIKE TO KNOW IS WHATS LINE DANCING IN SEXUAL TERMS HAVE ASKED A FEW NEVER HEARD OF IT :undecided: BUT IT HAS BEEN DISCUSSED IN HERE SOUNDS DISCUSTINGinnocent IM STILL LEARNING DONT CLAIM TO KNOW ALL BUT QUIET EDUCATED LOL
Mona, yet another excellent thread, I'm going to sticky it, hopefully it will become properly used, but I would caution everyone in saying that they must please be aware this is not professional advise on any level, and admin has a disclaimer on all replys to queries. PS: off topic posting will be deleted :evil2:
A condoms is a must at all times keep safe and healthy
i obviously cant speak for others but i;d like to think I am responsive and will make the oh and ahs at the appropriate moments and let the person I am with know when something feels good. Men are not mind readers......as we are not either. So guys.....will you let a woman know when something feels good or have you just let things go on and let the woman just do what she is doing? If so...how?
hi there all, hope i dont sound rude or anything, but i would luv to do a group party but am really nervous,i just wonder if there was someone at the party that wasnt attractive to me would i still have to be open to every one weither attracted or not...i hope im not offending anyone with this question
Everyone is entitled to their own preferences - you are not obliged to do anything that you aren't comfy with - No means No - for everyone.
Mona I am always happy to let a woman know what I like or whether I am enjoying what she is doing . I suppose the difficulty may be on a first meet, you have to go with the flow. A regular partner is different, it should be possible to discuss likes & dis-likes & explore together what turns you both on.
So guys.....will you let a woman know when something feels good or have you just let things go on and let the woman just do what she is doing?
As with everyday life you will not be attracted to everyone you meet a party
It is not a given that you have to plcy a party or even play with everyone in attendence ... So go to a party, relax, enjoy & if you feel like it play...
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hi there all, hope i dont sound rude or anything, but i would luv to do a group party but am really nervous,i just wonder if there was someone at the party that wasnt attractive to me would i still have to be open to every one weither attracted or not...i hope im not offending anyone with this question
just a couple of questions i have always wanted answered...is it true that women who drink whiskey are always frisky?...and that if they drink gin they're a cert to sin??.... and does the female orgasm actually exist or is it just a myth? :P
Tommy.....i cant answer the first 2.......lol But the last....the female orgasm is not a myth and I am sure you know that.....if its female ejaculation you want to know about.....then I can says...hand on heart...it is real. Although little seems to be understood about how or why it happens...it does. I was 33 the first time i squirted...up until that point I always said it was something i couldnt do...soemthing I would never be able to do. But after the first time.....its become easier and easier....all depends on the guys ability to find the right spot of course ....lol
hi mona very good thread and i agree with comdoms been used all the time
im afraid this is to the women out there, lately when im with men and i do mean a few men, i seem to have a problem, they all have a problem with stamina,or to be more honest they all only last maybe 3-4 mins from being full dressed to being finnished,im just wondering have any of you been having this problem and if so have you any hints as to wat i can do to make sure this stops being a reacuring problem, please help
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im afraid this is to the women out there, lately when im with men and i do mean a few men, i seem to have a problem, they all have a problem with stamina,or to be more honest they all only last maybe 3-4 mins from being full dressed to being finnished,im just wondering have any of you been having this problem and if so have you any hints as to wat i can do to make sure this stops being a reacuring problem, please help

Just courious, the guys you talk about..ok, they only last a few minutes but, are they not ready for action again after a short break?
Horneybutshy......just a suggestion but did you ever think about making the initial sexual contact being about you and not them......get them to touch you.....perform oral on you......you can still be sexual with them but not have any direct contact to their genitalia....maybe preventing such a sudden release. Get them and you to slow it down a bit. Meandthewife makes a good point....I have no problem with a guy cumming very quickly once it means that he will last sooo much longer afterwards.
Now a wee question of my own for other single fems or the females of couples. I have a single guy I have fun with every now and then and I would like to organise a 3sum for him with me and another female. He's not looking for full on fem on fem...which is lucky since I aint bi.....have kissed plenty of women....but some things i have no interest in. I would like some advice on choosing the other female......approaching the subject with the other female and on the actual logistics of it all. Weird this cos i have no problems in a mmf situation......lol.....just no experience of mff's.
thanks for advice ladies, yea ive tried the slow it down buisness ive even started refusing to give blow jobs lol but still not helping, i have to admit i like intercourse but as soon that starts its over, i wish i had the time to wait a couple of hours for them to recharge but due to family commitments i dont have the luxury of extra time:violin:smile
hi desdemona, you come accross as a very nice easy going open minded helpfull woman, when you say u want to set up a 3some, do you want to ask someone you know from ur home life or are you looking for some one from here, if its some one from here then i think u have already started to answer ur own question, all you need is for the right woman to read ur thread,
Mona, is the solution to meet a couple. That way there is the FMF option for your friend & an MMF option for you & the other lady. :doggy:
totally agree with ya des
smart thinking alan, but maybe the other bloke isnt comfortable with another man, maybe he wants to be spoiled by the women alone
but maybe he is not. also if short of time planning is essential
Q: Is swinging a bad idea for a virgin?
Thanks for the replies......the couple thing is not an option, the mff is a treat for him, so kinda spoils the 'its all about him' thing. I was hoping that maybe a female would have some advice on how they choose another woman to join in, in this scenario. Did they choose someone they knew was the males fantasy or someone quite similar to themselves? On another note....gigryan....not entirely sure if swinging is the ideal why for anyone to lose their virginity....I have to be honest when I read your post first i automatically though....oh no....it should with someone you love and respect....then I caught myself on.....I lost mine with someone who was fun, experienced and who I had no interest in, other than getting it over and done with. Have to say it was fab. I do believe swinging is different though, what may seem perfectly normal to a swinger may be deemed inappropriate to others outside of it. I hasten to add that all this is purely my own personal point of view and everyone has their own opinions.
i have to admit that i wouldnt enjoy having sex with a virgin,i enjoy the more experienced man, although im sure there are plenty out there who would, i dont believe there is a right or wrong way to loose ur virginity just so long as the act and memory are good ones, although i would recomend that you tell the female before hand so she can break you in easily
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Q: Is swinging a bad idea for a virgin?

absolutely,
You first sexual experience is a very formative factor to how you approach sex for the rest of your life I think, and if the experience was bad you'd be Kicking yourself forever as you'd keep relating back to that one bad experience. On an additional point, Most you will find like to meet someone that has some experience, and they arent really into coaching, though some lady with a 'Virgin de-flowering' Fantasy could prove me completely wrong.
The Main point is, if your Motives for being on the site are to loose your virginity I'd seriously reconsider it.
Titan79
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absolutely,
You first sexual experience is a very formative factor to how you approach sex for the rest of your life I think, and if the experience was bad you'd be Kicking yourself forever as you'd keep relating back to that one bad experience. On an additional point, Most you will find like to meet someone that has some experience, and they arent really into coaching, though some lady with a 'Virgin de-flowering' Fantasy could prove me completely wrong.
The Main point is, if your Motives for being on the site are to loose your virginity I'd seriously reconsider it.
Titan79

Take your point... but for some the whole virginity thing might have become a big deal and something that just needs to be got out of the way!!
The last thing you need when the time comes is to be stressed / embarrassed coz you don't have a clue what you're doing. Better to get a bit of experience beforehand I reckon!!
Shame these de-flowerers are so hard to come across...lol
mona answer to your question would be up to the both of yous to pick the fem or if you want to suprise him then you pick the fem hope the meet goes well xxxxxxx