Getting Started Advice from Auntie Eden

Quote by Eden
A few guys have been asking me for advice recently on how to get started so I've put together a little something to help you. It's only my opinion and obviously lots of people will have their own ideas but I think I speak for lots of the other girls who are active on the site here.
Firstly, put effort into your profile –preferably about 10 lines long with photos. Look at others for inspiration and tailor it to represent you and your interests. It has to whet a girl's interest in you. Also, don't just put photos of different angles of your genitals. Girls are generally much more enticed by a tasteful body shot and a face pic if possible (not a deal breaker – we do understand the need for anonymity).
Secondly, try to get to know the girl. Yes, we are all on here for no strings attached sex, and yes we all have a healthy sexual appetite, but we are not hookers. The vast majority of girls on here want to build up some kind of rapport with a guy before agreeing to meet. Also, try asking a girl for a coffee to see if there's any chemistry – most of us prefer that. There are very few girls who are going to agree to meeting a complete stranger straightaway for a sexual encounter.
Before even chatting to a girl – read her profile carefully.
Then…
1. Don't ask how long have we've been on the site? Read our profile, it's on top of the page.
2. Whispering – Firstly, ask to whisper and secondly, why bother whispering something as banal as hi. Come up with something that will entice us to reply.
not ask to see our pics straightaway. After a decent length conversation you could offer to show us yours. If we accept to see them, it is reasonable then, and only then to ask for us to show you ours.
4. Do not send random friend requests. Why would we want a stranger to know when we're online etc.?
5. Don't ask as one of your first questions 'what are you into?' I'm into sex. What do you think I'm into on a swing site? Em, who are you? Do you really think I'm going to tell you the finer details of my sexual preferences.
6. Don't ask do I meet many? Again, look at the profile. I meet. I'm genuine. I'm not a messer. That's all you need to know, it's none of your business how many I meet.
7. For those of us who clearly say that we don't meet attached guys, respect that. By all means, chat in the chat rooms / be friendly but don't ask to meet us. We're not judging you, to each their own, but it's not our thing.
8. Remember that we're normal girls – yes, we are on a swing site and yes we love sex but that doesn't mean you can speak to us crudely. Good manners cost nothing.
9. Don't give up - great guys are in demand. None of them are Brad Pitt lookalikes - but rather, decent, nice, sound guys who make the effort.
Then – if you get to meet a girl for fun
1. Be freshly washed and shaved! This shouldn't need to be mentioned but alas...
2. If you're visiting a girl's house, I think it's nice to bring something; a bottle of wine, a packet of biscuits, anything. I'd never visit anyone without bringing something; it's a common courtesy.
3. While sexual health is everyone's responsibility you should have condoms and dispose of them afterwards. If you're in a girl's house ask her where she'd like them disposed.
4. Do not gossip, name drop or tell us intimate details of other women on the site. We're pretty much all friends on here and we talk - LOTS.
5. Be a gentleman at all times and you won't go too far wrong.
6. Be safe and have fun
I've addressed this to guys simply because there are more of them and as a girl who is having a great time on the site I know what girls are looking for. If any girls would like advice or a friendly ear by all means drop me or any of the other girls on here a mail and we'd be happy to help.