just like to know other people opionions on this subject recently 4 people have added me to their favourites ive never spoken with them on here should there not be something that could be done like they have to have spoken to you at least before they can do this seems very silly addin someone as a favourite if ya dont know them how can a profile tell someone ya i like him {her}their my favourite lol what ye think about this ??????????
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just like to know other people opionions on this subject recently 4 people have added me to their favourites ive never spoken with them on here should there not be something that could be done like they have to have spoken to you at least before they can do this seems very silly addin someone as a favourite if ya dont know them how can a profile tell someone ya i like him {her}their my favourite lol what ye think about this ??????????
I agree with vanity, why people add you to their favourites without having even chatting with you is beyond me. Maybe some form of approval could be added so you can except or decline prior to your own profile being updated? Just my thoughts on the matter.
Padds
In a way I dont mind if someone adds me to their list in the past.....now I find it a little odd that people who i have never spoken to nor even recognise the name from the chat rooms add me.....I wonder if theyve actually read my profile.
It would however be nice to see a list of those who have added you, and to delete where appropriate.
I must say though....I love my favourites list.....I get excited when I see my favourite Chat room pals on and cant wait to track them down for a natter.....you know who you are:wave2:
Mjj x x x x
Sex God
I've always added people I like the profiles of to my favourites. I dont see any problem with it, from the point of view of the people that are added, I think it should be a compliment.
JJ,,,, shhh,,,, I know your not on about me :cry:
The entire adding thing is a dark hole!
On a personal note, checking the person's profile that adds you, has the element of traceability, and based on their profile may give off the wrong signals to fellow users! or persay may imply your sexual preferences are not as appears on your profile.
I for one feel the site need the process put in place as in if people leave "comments" or "establish" you. At tht point you have the right to permit or decline.
I feel that the same proceedure should apply when people add you to your favourites.
On a personal note, I always ask users "May I add you too my favourites" maybe we need a "May I button"
Padds.
Like JJ,,, as individuals,,, we all have built up a fav list,,, and I agree with JJ, when you log on, it's great to see your pals are online.
I had someone add me the other day, someone that I had prior too or never seen in the chatroom.
I have since,,, and not as much as a "hello!"
I rest my case
Boo says:
I use the favourites thing as a tool. If I like someone's profile, and it looks as if they might be someone we'd like to meet, I'll add them to favourites. That way if I log on and see they're in the chat room, I can pop in there and see if they'll say hello. Or if I feel brave, say hello to them.
I purge our favourites list now and then, and take out those people who never responded to the gesture, who have been on there a while and we still haven't got to know them better, and those we got to know better and decided they're not for us.
That's just the way we use it, and when someone else adds us to the favourites, we consider it a friendly overture type gesture, and respond if we like the profile. I don't think the term favourite should be seen literally, just as the term friend on a blog doesn't mean the same thing as it does in real life.
Boo.
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Boo says:
I use the favourites thing as a tool. If I like someone's profile, and it looks as if they might be someone we'd like to meet, I'll add them to favourites. That way if I log on and see they're in the chat room, I can pop in there and see if they'll say hello. Or if I feel brave, say hello to them.
I purge our favourites list now and then, and take out those people who never responded to the gesture, who have been on there a while and we still haven't got to know them better, and those we got to know better and decided they're not for us.
That's just the way we use it, and when someone else adds us to the favourites, we consider it a friendly overture type gesture, and respond if we like the profile. I don't think the term favourite should be seen literally, just as the term friend on a blog doesn't mean the same thing as it does in real life.
Boo.
Boo
" Purge" Purging, correct me if I am complete tecno phob is deleting "aged old data, that is no longer required" Have I misread Vanity's post here? I THINK not.
Padds
We're with you Padds on this one. We do not think that someone should be able to add you to their favourites without your permission. As said before maybe an accept or decline option should be made available. I think it's actually quite creepy that someone you haven't even spoken to before can monitor your activity and see where you are and what you are doing.
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" Purge" Purging, correct me if I am complete tecno phob is deleting "aged old data, that is no longer required" Have I misread Vanity's post here? I THINK not.
Padds
I don't quite see what you're saying. If you mean you dislike the idea of people being considered 'aged old data, no longer required', I would point you to the fact that someone can have 'user comment' added to their profile. User? As in, this person is just a thing to be used? I don't think terminology should be taken so literally, or you're going to be perpetually affronted.
That said, I think it's an excellent idea for the favourites function to be made like friends on a blog, where you can approve a friend request before it's granted.
My personal opinion remains that it's a tool for seeing when there is an opportunity to talk to someone whose profile you read and liked. The word favourite should not be taken literally.
However, clearly not everyone feels the same and I can understand the creepy feeling, knowing someone else can see when you're logged in. Perhaps until an approval thing for favourites can be installed, a note can be put at the top of the profile saying "Please only add to favourites on request". Could that help?
Bullandboo, good idea about the "please only add to favourites on request". Trouble with that is half the single guys in here obviously can't read as we keep getting bombarded with meassages from them even though our profile states "no single males". I'm sure you know where we're coming from on that one.
