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Buddies that sleep together from time to time. A good idea?
If you’re like many singles, there exists a person in your life from the opposite sex that for whatever reason never interested you enough to date. As time goes on, perhaps there are even moments of flirtation with your pal and thoughts of a sexual nature. Perhaps one of you was always seeing someone, making it impossible for you to date each other.
If you break up with your partner or otherwise find yourself alone, this friend may seem like a viable solution to get over feelings of loneliness. But before you jump into bed with someone you care about only as a friend, consider these points.
Sex Will Change the Nature of Your Friendship
Adding sex to any relationship – casual or not – changes it. So if you’re having intercourse with a friend it irrevocably changes the way that relationship will proceed. It’s possible that the two of you will remain friends, but you’ll never be as close as you were before you crossed the physical line. Besides that, it may take several years before you are truly able to think of your friend in the platonic way you did before you slept with him or her.
Casual Sex Isn’t So Casual
One mistake people make in a “bed buddy†situation is thinking that casual sex with a friend is no big deal. There are usually underlying feelings of attraction involved already when two friends decide to have sex. If one person likes the other more, it can cause embarrassment and hurt feelings.
The other problem is when you have sexual intercourse your body naturally releases hormones which are shown to increase feelings of love and attraction. In other words, if you’re trying to deny your feelings, you’re kidding yourself.
Why risk ruining a friendship by jumping into bed together? If friends where meant to fuck they wouldnt have built up a good frienship first, they would have just shagged and either moved on or started a relationship.
And another point if you do fuck your friend and that frienship ends it affects not only the "fuckers" but their circle of friends when things turn nasty.
So before people think of shagging a friend, think is it worth risking the friendship for the exchange of body fluid.
Interesting. I know one or two people that have slept together a few times over the years and still remain friends without any problems at all.
But, I've known a hell of a lot of others who spoilt good friendships because of a quick fumble in the hay.
Myself, I would not like to take the chance, good friends are hard to come by, and I reckon a good friendship is more important than sex.
Stefan.
Warming the Bed
Mr yummy here. Good friends are difficult to find, especially of the opposite sex. I have several female friends who are very shag-able indeed 
I haven't of course shagged any of them and thats why we are still friends. They've been my buddies through the good , the bad and the ugly. Having a fems friends is great cos they don't do bullshit, they tell ya what you need to hear not what you want to hear.
I haven't of course shagged any of them and thats why we are still friends. They've been my buddies through the good , the bad and the ugly. Having a fems friends is great cos they don't do bullshit, they tell ya what you need to hear not what you want to hear. 
Sex God
with yez on that one
Interesting replies & I have to admit I would agree with most.
Having asked the question I suppose I should proffer an answer.
Within the site and in everyday life I have many female friends, many of the friendships resulting from meeting through work, through friends, at a party & of course through the site. I would be lying if I said that on occasion I did not think "a night with her would be nice", but then I remember the friendship & realise that only in certain circumstances can you have a friendship & a sexual relationship. While the friendship may survive the encounter I believe it could become a "polite" friendship & that which we had before would be lost. As others have said good friends are hard to come by.
When a "sexual friendship" breaks down, many may get caught up in the cross-fire, as a result of such a breakdown, some of my friends had divided loyalties, thankfully they have stayed friends with both of us but I know at the time it was extremely difficult for them.
So yes the platonic friendship can work, but only in very exceptional circumstances can you "fuck a friend" and remain friends.
Value the friendship, enjoy the sex but ne'er the twain should meet without considering the consequences.
