Bi-curious is that the right term for that occassional foray with a member of the same sex.
If you have had a BI experience the curiousity is no longer there ... you know whether you liked it or not & if you will go there again.
Bi-cassional is perhaps a more accurate term and indicates that not all meetings will have a Bi element/encounter.
The Bi term does seem to scare off the STR8 members, especially the guys that feel a hairy hand may be going to cup their balls, or their cock may get beard rash.
Strangely a substantial mumber of women on the site are Bi curious ... is this pandering to their partners "FF action fantasy" or do they really want to kiss the girl.
In most cases Bi really just refers to oral sex with either sex at the meeting, and then only by agreement ...but I would defy anyone in a darkened room to initially tell whether it was a woman or man that was licking or sucking them, and by the time you know you are probably enjoying the experience so much that you dont care.
You are on this site to encounter new experiences, dont close your mind on the basis of a word.
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Great post as usual Alan.
I tend not to read too much into how someone describes their sexual orientation. The different terms seem to mean different things to people. I take the view described in your post regarding "curious"; once I had had male contact for me the curiosity was gone and I was happy just to go with "bi". But I've also vacillated between bi and curious and at one point even considered going back to straight, simply because I didn't want to put off straight couples. If you peruse the gay flirt forum on here you'll notice quite a few of the people posting describe themselves as straight, probably for this reason. They enjoy same-sex experience, but it's not the be-all and end-all, and presumably they don't want to risk putting off the straight girls that they're communicating with also. I don't have a problem with this at all, but for me personally I'm perhaps at the age where I feel honesty is the best policy. With us what you see is what you get. I don't have an "eye for men", I don't think about guys all the time, and I wouldn't dream of touching a guy "by accident" unless I knew for sure he wanted it (by him telling me directly).
As for the girls, I can only speak for Boo, but in her case, yes, she wants to kiss the girl. She also changed her description after having an experience and liking it :lickface:
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Sex God
I think of myself as Bi-Selective, which apparently the definition is :small-print:
In other words my natural orientation is to towards men but, I do enjoy play with women, in the right circumstances and of course with the right , I wont be down at the local on a Saturday night eyeing up the ladies
I believe its called , having my cake and eating it ;)
Unfortunatly theres no bi-selective in the boxes to tick when u join
BI SELECTIVE
Person who prefers opposite sex sexual activity, but enjoys same sex sexual activity on a limited basis with the right person.
In other words my natural orientation is to towards men but, I do enjoy play with women, in the right circumstances and of course with the right , I wont be down at the local on a Saturday night eyeing up the ladies
I believe its called , having my cake and eating it ;)
Unfortunatly theres no bi-selective in the boxes to tick when u join
BI SELECTIVE
Person who prefers opposite sex sexual activity, but enjoys same sex sexual activity on a limited basis with the right person.
Thats how I would describe myself , and until slightly said bi-selective to me a few months back I never knew a term for it , I think its an option that should defo be available to newbies on signing up
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I think of myself as Bi-Selective, which apparently the definition is :small-print:
BI SELECTIVE
Person who prefers opposite sex sexual activity, but enjoys same sex sexual activity on a limited basis with the right person.
slightly that is very aptly put bravo :clap:
Brilliant... I like it ... nice ring to it
BI SELECTIVE
Person who prefers opposite sex sexual activity, but enjoys same sex sexual activity on a limited basis with the right person.
Thanks Slightly I think we have a term that ideally express a preference & perhaps the moderators might look at including this is the options.
Bi-curious does not= bi-sexual and bi -sexual does not = homosexual...
Bi-sexuality imo is fliud, every changing, an emotional and physical attraction, to be enjoyed as you see fit...
As a foot note Freud suggests every human has the potential to experience feelings of sexual attraction for both sexes, wether we act on them or not..
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Bi-curious does not= bi-sexual and bi -sexual does not = homosexual...
Bi-sexuality imo is fliud, every changing, an emotional and physical attraction, to be enjoyed as you see fit...
As a foot note Freud suggests every human has the potential to experience feelings of sexual attraction for both sexes, wether we act on them or not..
interesting...................:devil:
Sex God
I class myself as Bi selective. I am not adverse to same sex play but as slightly put it, depends on the situation and the person, and I certainly dont be eyeing up everything with a pulse when I am out and about. Sadly though this seems to be the perception to those that see us with the 'Bi' word before our sexuality. Alas things like this are deep seeded and to be honest I would never jam my views down a persons throat, ( I have something else for doing that) But I have had one nasty email in the last week making note of my sexuality by a person I never had made contact with on this site beforehand, thankfully the mentioned pleb is taking a short Break in
Bans-ville.
Great Topic Alan, nice to get these types of discussions going.
Orgasminator
:-?as someone who is very openminded married to a bi sexual woman and have a lot of gay male &female friends i cant get my head round bi sexual men especially married men who have encounters with other men, i have seen a lot off things in my life ,and have seen marriages wrecked when wives suddenly realalise that thier husbands have been having sex with other men ,and seen very strong partnerships were the male is gay bi sexual or whatever. and i do wonder if bi sexual men are just afraid for what ever reason to come out as gay ,i have not and never will condem anyones sexually its just something could never get my head round ,:sticky: i suppose that makes me curious lol .very good thread :clap:
:clap: great thread,,
personally i hate labels, i used to have bi curious on my profile but had to change it back to straight as the amount of men who think you will meet and suck them at the drop of a hat just isnt funny, :crazy:
i heard slightlys term a few months ago and must say i have used it since, BI imo seems to put some people off and gives others the belief you are gay, and further still gives others the impression you are easy and sex crazed.
i do not advertise to people that i would play with the same sex, i do not want a relationship with a man however i do with a woman. i think unfortunately that there are still too many narrow minded people in this world who like to judge and only feel comfortable if they can label you and put you into a certain box. to me sex is sex and should be enjoyed with whoever, and as already stated this is a swing site keep your self open to new experiances :thrilled:
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i do not advertise to people that i would play with the same sex, i do not want a relationship with a man however i do with a woman. i think unfortunately that there are still too many narrow minded people in this world who like to judge and only feel comfortable if they can label you and put you into a certain box. to me sex is sex and should be enjoyed with whoever, and as already stated this is a swing site keep your self open to new experiances :thrilled:
loaded To me you are either curious/attracted/interested fantasise about the same sex or you don't and bisexuality fits in all cases.
There are different degrees of bisexuality - to call yourself a bisexual doesn't even mean you've experienced it. It doesn't mean you want to curl up on the couch with someone of the same sex. It doesn't mean everytime you have sex you want it to be with someone of the same sex. Of course, it can mean all of these things as well.
Sexualities are fluid - not to be compartmentalised. One person's bisexuality might be different to yours.
And to say 'I only play with the woman if it feels right or i'm attracted to her' doesn't make sense to me...aren't those the criteria we use to determine who we will have sex with regardless of their gender?
Personally, if someone has bicurious on their profile I'm not interested. I have visions of them lying back and me doing all the work. No thanks! haha.
Well IMHO I was once bi curious along time ago when I was just that 'curious' about being 'bi', the wanting to know all bout it as the interest was there I classed myself as bi curious.
Then having met and had the delights and pleasures of a few women and noticed that I was increasingly eyeing (perving) up women's boobs or ass etc in public. The wanting more more of their naked company and basically fancying the pants off them....... yes I think I'm bisexual now, the curiousness is no longer.
When I joined this site I was unsure for one reason only what sexuality to display on my profile. As having been on a similar site before my inbox was clogged with emails from guys wanting me to 'do' the girlfriend or wife, rather than the girlfriend or wife contacting me themselves. I decided to display bisexual as honesty is the best policy and I can now read through the falseness.
I have had the bad experience of meeting with a couple and it was all his idea and she wanted nothing to do with it at all she was no more bisexual than I am vegetarian !! But she was going along with it for his sake, needless to say I wouldn't and made my excuses and left.
As for others opinions of whether I am bisexual or not I really couldn't be bothered what others think, actually most of my nieces know I am bisexual and make no judgement on Aunty Amber :lol2:
Sorry for the long response I could go on and on but wont lol I kinda get carried away now and then lol
Think instead of bi fem i will now go under bi selective, after all not every fem wants to be with me and i really dont want to be with just any fem, there has to be something there to get me really going. Now if Amy Lee was in front of me i would need to be pulled from between her legs....what a woman :inlove:
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Raven..can I give ya hand with her?
:happy:..
I wouldnt class myself as bi, more selective also, I think its not as straight forward as that. I have always thought sexuality can be fluid, I have had the pesky whispers in chat from 'curious' guys when I had bi on my profile, and some other not so broad minded people thinking I would try and shag the male half of a couple/shag anything that stands still long enough etc, and more or less express disgust at the fact the 'B and i' were in front of my gender, so for a quiet life I set it back to plain old 'Straight'.
I know some might say I am not being entirely honest, but thats they're issue not mine. I know what I am and am not, and only those that are open minded enough to understand this can appreciate that.
Sex God
Quote by user=ravenfire:duel:....we'll see....you take one end I'll take the other..:doggy:Oh noooooo titan Amy Lee is all mineeeeee:evil2:
