hey lb hun xx...gud post...
what a fukin ass is all i gotta say bout he whoever he was and his comment...insultin prick...etc..i cud go on n on...
it deffo not likeya 2 b left speechless lol..but im not surprised...
we been wit a few bbw's...luv curves..n dey certainly knows how ta hav fun..wild nites lol....
dont u worry bout da prick..he not go too far wit an attitude like dat...unfortunately dere is sum like him out dere...and well absolutely not worth fukin botherin wit eh!!!!
n hey how sexy is u lb...n ur wit...lol...shall i go on...hehe...dont let him get ya down...life is way 2 short..
chatya soon tc now lb...xx :lick:
I wouldn't take any notice of the gobshite, 'theres always one'. I think that bbw is very much a preference for some men, in the same way that some guys prefer blondes. I sincerely doubt the majority of genuine guys on the site would think like that. I'm slim, and was turned down recently by someone who just prefers a larger lady, which is fair enough. I was asked in a mail last week if I charged for meets, so I can appreciate what its like to be made feel cheap and get annoyed, best to just shrug it off, and note the username to file under 'complete tosser'.
Girls I have been swinging now for 4 years, and in all my time both here and abroad I have found there is a percentage of men that when you scratch beneath the surface you will find that they have a set of double standards, but hide them purely to try and get laid, and it looks like the guy LB was chatting to maybe let his hidden side show, and probably by accident, but then again maybe it was a genuine comment on how he see's some guys behave, I have seen far worse, and as newbie said she got mail asking if she charged, I mean WTF is with that!!!!! Some men have cotton wool for brains when it comes to women in this day and age, but we live and learn, and before anyone starts, no I am not bashing all men, just some :evil2:
i think sherri's right, you don't want to shoot the messenger, sounds like an accurate observation of an unpleasant truth to me. there's a huge amount of hypocrisy and dishonesty associated with human relationships and especially about sexual relationships. For instance a lot of people - not on here obviously - really believe that their partner should only find them attractive and no-one else which is just absurd...
quite agree with you lovebird when you talk about people not being put in the same boat. i think people are attracted to each other for different reasons and even when you think its just a physical thing there are other factors at play, like what was the person doing when you first saw them, what were they saying, what was the situation. For me what I hear is very important; physical attraction will quickly evaporate if what they are saying suggests that they are rude or small-minded or prejudiced.
are people here making choices based on pictures alone ? no, they are deciding on the basis of texts and the forums which tell you a lot more about people.
Interesting Post LB,
I'd Just Like to Highlight something here which is sticking out from LB opening post and I am surprised no one's mentioned it besides the negativity towards BBW.
The Guy seems to foster an opinion that because she is bbw and on this site that she is an easy lay?..now I know for a fact having spoken to my friends that do know I swing this can be a common misconception, that us....i.e. Swingers are a band of uncompromising sex animals that shag and plunder all before us with no discrimination. I think these guys come on here with that attitude more so than the BBW issuem as in to say 'ah all these swinger women are mad for cock, and would ride anything etc, god that fecking gets my back up. If anything I have found people in the swinging fraternity are more decerning and if anything far more choosey on who they have fun with. This guy just comes across as a Moron LB, I doubt you were missing out on much.
Could never get my mind around the whole bbw thing. There are a good percentage of men both on this site and in the world, myself included, who aren't exactly thin. And we don't feel compelled to put bbm on our profiles. Why not just put bw (beautiful woman)? Or better yet just put nothing because its a given. Why waste time on anyone as superficial as the one mentioned in the first post? And thinking the ladies are easy...ffs? Some people's children.
some good points made here. Totally agree with eponymous. Im carrying a few extra pounds around the belly but I put average on my profile cus..i kinda am, arnt I?
The idea that curvy or larger women put out more because of their size, is unfortunatly, just part of the world. Has been for as long as I can remember. Maybe he was just making a remark based on what he has experienced, or maybe he was being a douche is not for me to say. All i can say is take it how you will.
Personally, im not one for political correctness but i know when i should clarify a statement if it has been taken in a way i had not intended.
Maybe you should msg this person and ask what he ment by it
I'm not sure who was worse? The pratt that LB was dealing with,,Or the gobshite that was expecting to have to pay Newbie9.
Like,have these guys any real lives?? Or,is their computer screen their life now,,and they don't know what the real outside world is really like?
Some people like bbw's,,Some don't,,,Either way,,If you like them fine,there are plenty on here,,If you don't,,don't reply to them,,and move on....What's the need to open your mouth with a stupid comment?
In case any if the 2 sad gits at the centre of all this are reading this,,always remember,, EveryOne has feelings!!
Lovebird i read thru the forum, the whole issue has annoyed me..but it was ur line here that made me think most
"but it was a comment he made after that which kinda threw me. he said fair play for telling him upfront about my size...i said fine but it is stated on my profile plus if we were going to meet up it would become very evident fairly quickly. "
Do we have to apologise for being what we are now, is it a failing on our behalf....I dont think so.
Im a big and beautiful girl, I will apologise to no one for it, its like a redhead or a short person having to be happy someone will fancy them, even tho they have red hair or are 4 foot 6!
If men are stating they like bbw to gain a meet faster good luck to them, they have other options too which i can recommend..wellies velcro...or glass filled with liver.
BBW only state so cos they dont want to have to waste time dealing with men who only see a size 10 as beauty. Its for our benefit not theirs.
Swinging is about prefences and choices..not insulting someones whole being,
Rant over lol
well said everyone :clap:
I'm a BBW too and have made no effort to disguise the fact. I have had no shortage of offers for meets off here, from people who have seen me on cam, and truely believe who you are as a person has more to do with it than anything else.
I'm as far from easy as it's possible to get, and the few people I have 'met' have been after a lot of talking and getting to know each other.
I'm no ones sympathy shag, and in fact any man invited into my bed should consider himself very lucky. That said, I also consider myself lucky to have enjoyed the company of a few amazing men :doggy:
Agreed shaven as much as there are amazing amount of arseholes floating around on here..theres some absolute diamond guys. Theres no magic formula to gaining meets people click, esp ones who know how to have a laugh.
Having read all above I can only assume the guy or guys hold the attitude that a BBW woman should be "thanking god" a guy even stopped to read their profile let alone chat or ask them out.
These are obviously a vain bunch, convinced that they are "gods gift" and no doubt feel that any woman should count themselves lucky to know them.
If ever there was a case of judging a book by the cover, this view point is it. Yet that initial physicial attraction to any woman is purely a passing phase, character, humout, intellect, shared interests are more likely to maintain the interest, but at the end of the day to each their own and maybe there is someone out there for everyone.
Perhaps in time those with these short sighted view points will realise that "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and that a relationship even on Swing4 is a 2 way street.
Lovebird i read thru the forum, the whole issue has annoyed me..but it was ur line here that made me think most
"but it was a comment he made after that which kinda threw me. he said fair play for telling him upfront about my size...i said fine but it is stated on my profile plus if we were going to meet up it would become very evident fairly quickly. "
Do we have to apologise for being what we are now, is it a failing on our behalf....I dont think so.
Im a big and beautiful girl, I will apologise to no one for it, its like a redhead or a short person having to be happy someone will fancy them, even tho they have red hair or are 4 foot 6!
If men are stating they like bbw to gain a meet faster good luck to them, they have other options too which i can recommend..wellies velcro...or glass filled with liver.
BBW only state so cos they dont want to have to waste time dealing with men who only see a size 10 as beauty. Its for our benefit not theirs.
Swinging is about prefences and choices..not insulting someones whole being,
Rant over lol[/quote
Ermmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....i happen think red heads are mmmmmmmmmmmmmm we all have some sort of fault to someone, hense we all have a type so girls a and boys pick your type and dont insult the others in the mean time on the way ect. ,,casper outttttttttttt
:P whoever the fooker is he dont know much about the ladies what a wanker,fuk that kinda man pisses me off , ladies we are not all dickheads like him ,since i grew hair on my balls i never was a body fascist, thats schoolboy talk :giggle:
hi lovebird well all i can say is who ever the peep was thinks like this is a wanker i have met some very nice peeps from here and yes i do understand what ur saying as like yourself i always tell peeps that i am chatting to the same thing but most men come back with SO SO what has size got to do with it but there is a few who will tell you that they not interested because of ur size and i respect that well we are all different and all have our own list what we want and my main one is not to hurt any one feelings we are all on here for the same reason and you all know what that is a good night of sex love you lovebird xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I have been reading through this thread and I have to admit that i am not shocked by some people's attitudes towards larger people. In reading this it started a whole wave of emotions leading back to when I was bullied for been large.
Life is not as simple as some would like, and the people who make this world aren't always as "perfect" and they might like to think they are. Up to about 2 years ago I had no self confidence at all becaue of the insults I would receive from girls and guys about my size, yet it was someone from here and that gave me back my confidence.
I would like to remind all of those who are quick to judge, that we are all human and we all have feelings. We all hurt but yet we all can love too.
So lovebird, chin up hun, cause personally, I think you look amazing!!....and just do what I do and ignore the losers.
If we are big, the it does mean we are beautiful...lol
Dar4u thanks for your lovley post, Iv said it befor and I'll say it again,Im here to meet real people,and so far I think I have been lucky,I have met some wonderfull folks on this site,funny,bright,sexy,georgus,people,I think the most sexest organ is the mind,and Girls, yours is the best:inlove:thank you
I think it would be naive to believe that there AREN'T men out there who think like the OP's email friend suggests.
There are all kinds of negative stereotypes associated with bigger women (I am also a big girl so talking from experience here). First of all, a lot of men (most of them very immature) think that big women have trouble getting laid so they will be less picky. Therefore, many single men on here think they are their best chances of getting laid.
It's true in nightclubs as well. There's actually a name for it but I can't recall it now. At the end of the night, the guy can't get 'regular hole' he goes for the fat chick (that's the mentality). It is difficult to spot these people....though Ive developed a few tricks over time.
As for using the term BBW, there are men AND couples on here who are quite anti-big women. I use the term as a way to say 'feck off and don't contact me shallow people', so as someone else mentioned, as a form of protection against these twats.
OP your email buddy is a bit of a dick for applauding you for telling him your size! You should only be doing that for you and not for their benefit.
hi there This thread really perked my interest, being a bbw myself. It clearly states on our profile what we are and we still have people contacting us and then saying *oh we had no idea* It doesnt bother us any as Steve kindly says *its their loss* but it does frustrate me some. We believe its the inner beauty that is important not the outer, what you are on the inside shines through your outer packaging. I have to say we have met the most wonderful people on this site though but I still tell any new contacts that I am a larger lady because I do understand that some have a problem with that. okay nuff said .......thanks for letting me share.....anny
This is for that guy whoever u are :kick: But then again i always allow for ignorance!!!! Great big :clap: for all above and just to put my tuppence worth in... ME is a BBW and as im sure loadssssssss can tell u on here( if they'd be honest that is) that i dont "put out" that often... IF and when i do its after taking alot of things into consideration and getting to know the other person extremely well and soon sorting out the arseholes from the genuinely nice people... This is me and who ever doesnt like it doesnt have to be around me simple as that.. LB big big 
hwoar: :angel: some great posts here, another bbw here!!!
I want to agree with those who said its not just about size, there are other things which attract people... i know its not true that guys might think its easier to get a bigger girl... and i know its not true that all guys like big girls or all guys like small girls as already mentioned
without sounding seriously cocky, i'd like to say that i love my body.... i like to think i turn heads...because of my confidence, smile and my womanly curves...not because im a bbw or a size 6...women for me are beautiful at any size, the same way i wouldnt discrimate against a bhm (big handsome male)...or a shm...
so chin up lb, u beaut... i dont think his statement is true, my friend is as blunt as a bread knive and he said hes not into big girls but a lot of his friends are... and i believe him:therethere:
