This article aims to answer a few of the questions most commonly asked by single men. It's not a bible for getting your way, or a magic formula for attracting pussy. It's just some simple, basic advice.
1. You're In A Big Crowd
The first thing you have to realise is, there's more men looking for sex online than there are women. Lots more.
On average:
Women seeking Men: 147
Men seeking Women: 5,226
Couples seeking Men: 575
Men seeking Couples: 3,155
What does this mean? For every woman's attention, you're going to be competing with a lot of other guys.
So if you ever want to get as far as chatting with or even meeting anyone, you have to put yourself across so that somewhere, some woman will believe that you may be one of the best.
2. All Those Other Guys Have Dicks Too
It's a good idea to try to differentiate yourself from those thousands of the other men; to make yourself stand out from the crowd. However, this is where you're very lucky - because you already are a unique individual with your very own personality and unique qualities.
The problem is that the other 5,225 single men on this website all have a penis too. They all have hard dicks and they're all horny. So this is hardly a unique selling point. I personally don't think there's any point in making a big deal of your penis unless it is genuinely abnormally humungous (something close to a foot) and you have photographs to prove it.
While we're on this subject, opinion amongst women is split on the subject of dick-pictures. Some women like them; others however do not. If you must use a dick-picture in a profile, or send one to someone, always use a facial picture as well. NEVER use a dick-picture on its own, otherwise people will think that you really are a dick.
3. Wowing Women
The important thing with any profile or email response is to set yourself apart from all the other guys. I'm not saying you need to write your full life story but mention a little bit about who you are, what you're like, and what you're looking for. And don't just tell people what you're like; show them. Let your personality shine through in your words.
Try to imagine how what you're writing will be viewed by the women you're trying to target. Remember that these people are all strangers; they don't know you, and they start out by not caring about you at all. . They really don't give a damn about your dick being hard. And why should they? Before you can begin to attract, you need to make people believe that you are someone worth knowing.
BTW, when writing an profile make sure you mention what kind of person you're looking for too.
Likewise, when responding to someone's profile, always take care that you match any specific criteria they ask for. So if they want a man 6'4 and athletic, and you're 5'3 and tubby, you'll only be wasting your time and theirs if you send them a message!
4. Being Ignored Is Part Of The Territory
It's frustrating. You see an profile placed by a gorgeous woman. You put your heart and soul into writing a response; tailoring it to her. You send it. And you never hear back.
Unfortunately, this is a part of the scene. From your point of view; this is impolite, and rude. You put a lot of effort into writing your very best response and you get nothing - not even a rejection message - back. You can either reply to another profile - and probably be ignored again - or stop now and give up.
Fact: 95% of responses 19a go unanswered.
5. Get To Know People
Maybe your ad responses are falling on deaf ears and your own profile isn't getting noticed among thousands of others. What can you do to actually reach other people?
Join in the fun at one of the clubs in your area. Read up on some of the topics in this section or the features section and arm yourself with the know-how to go fa7 out to one of the swingers parties and make new friends. Slowly you'll become a part of the community and maybe you'll really hit it off with someone.
6. When Your Little Soldier Doesn't Measure Up
It can be depressing; looking through women's ads and seeing how many you can't answer because your penis isn't big enough to fit into the legendary "VWE" (Very Well-Endowed) category. But again, don't obsess over this - many of those women just want to experiment with a big dick, or happen to like them. And so what? You can't force people to find something attractive when they don't. And there's also women who dislike penises that are more than average in length or girth.
7. Sexual Discrimination
"No single males", says advert after advert. "No single men!" says the sexy lady in her hot profile. Unfair, isn't it? I bet they still see single women!
Some single men have given others a bad reputation. Some single men are rude, pushy, arrogant, ignorant... it's no surprise that many swingers have gone off them. Others just don't find single men attractive, and aren't interested in playing when another woman isn't involved.
the best way to fight it is to not be like one of them. Get a good reputation at the parties you do go to. Word will spread and soon you will be invited where others are not.
8. What's The Secret?
There's no secret formula for seducing women. There are things you can do to increase your chances, and make yourself more desirable, but at the end of the day - there's no magic button you can press to make a woman appear magically at your door. (Unless you have your local escort agency on speed-dial.) Every woman is different, and every woman likes different things.
There's lots of advice out there if you look for it; read it, digest it, take it all on board. But don't believe it's all automatically true, or that it will turn you into an irresistable sex-god. Go over it in your mind and decide which bits are most suitable for your current situation.
9. And What If Nothing Happens?
As we've seen, as a single guy on a swinging website, the odds are stacked against you. All the advice in the world can't overcome that; you need luck. A lot of luck.
Whatever you're doing - chatting, responding to profiles, going out to the clubs - it's very important that you enjoy the activity. Have fun with it. You may get lucky and meet someone straight away; it may be a very long time before anyone shows any interest in you. Maybe nobody ever will. So make sure you're having fun, and if at the end of the day your number hasn't come up - at least you've still had fun.
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