Well the weekend is just round the corner and here's me still chasin the easy lay....I wonder is there really such a thing, should I take a different approach, maybe offer to by a drink or a meal or even offer a ride on my motorbike, you see the thing is I'm not very good in the chatrooms, maybe its my age, I like to see who I'm talkin too, are there many out there like me? if so share a few tips, point me in the right direction and get me started on the way to my easy lay.
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Well the weekend is just round the corner and here's me still chasin the easy lay....I wonder is there really such a thing, should I take a different approach, maybe offer to by a drink or a meal or even offer a ride on my motorbike, you see the thing is I'm not very good in the chatrooms, maybe its my age, I like to see who I'm talkin too, are there many out there like me? if so share a few tips, point me in the right direction and get me started on the way to my easy lay.
** Titan79**I am moving this to the Anything goes thread as it might be more suited there.
First things first ..'easy lay', keep uttering that 'mantra' around these parts and it'll be easier to cure Ireland's debt issues in 12 months than get to meet someone on here.
Despite the premise of the site, you still have to make yourself stand out from the crowd and make the others pale into the shadows. Most are here for the same thing as you .. but they're approach might be less gung ho!
Unfortunately like most things in life nowadays, you need to 'sell yourself',
....sure some of us are not oil paintings in the conventional sense of the word, but anyone that gets meeting from here has some redeeming feature to garner your prospective 'markets' attention.
2. Honesty, faking it soon shows up, that 10 year old pic on the profile, claiming to have a country pile when a box room in clonsilla might be closer to the truth! (that's what hotels are for .....)if your playing away from home on the 'QT' say it, you'd be surprised there are some that don't care for your current relationship status.. but far more value the honesty in admitting so.
the deal, this is the tricky bit, pushiness and a reek of desperation are not an attractive trait and always will end up in you making the other person nervous,
If the person is interested they will make it known to you.
4. Be gracious in defeat, pick yourself up and go back to the drawing board. So many on here crash and burn as they flake out and go nutter on a person when they get a rejection, true its not nice, when you were at school and the kids didn't want to share they re toys with you , you just went and found someone that would. The knowledge that you threw a strop or reacted badly to a rejection can travel like wildfire.
Sorry for the business references, but at the end of the day subconsciously its what we all do, its just our execution of it that differs.
excellent advice titan !!!!
I have nothing to add except for the following observation ....if a person finds its difficult to pull in the everyday vanilla world , then they will find it nigh on impossible to pull in swingland , us swing ladies being very fussy ladies who have heard all the cheesy lines and downright rude and vulgar attempts to get into our unmentionables before !!!!!
Having said that , I am partial to a older refined gent myself so i think maybe giving the chatroom another go, and in particular some of the smaller rooms might give you a better idea of how the successful gents here operate. Best of luck .
After reading this thread I popped onto R47's profile for a wee peek.
You need to fill it out a bit, you need to put in your about me bit no matter how painful it might b to write it. Ideally a pic, not a face one if you don't want to. A body shot, tastefully taken.. So people can see something when they get to your profile. Have your face pics private so that when you get chatting to someone you can send them one and not b like others saying oh I'll have to mail/text it to you so they can get your number!
Honesty... Is the most important thing.. You will be found out if you are lying. Lots of women (including me) don't care what you're marital status is. We just want you to be straight up about it.
Give the chatrooms a go, try get in during the day when there are less people in. Say hi to people individually especially the mods they will make you feel welcome. Don't expect things to happen really fast, it's rare for someone to get a meet on their first day or straight up out of chat. I know I like to take a bit of time to get to know the person so that if/when I meet them there is going be some chemistry going on.
Last but not least.. Relax.. Enjoy it and just be yourself!
Best of luck
Ginger
I have to agree with the above three especially avalon: ....if a person finds its difficult to pull in the everyday vanilla world , then they will find it nigh on impossible to pull in swingland , us swing ladies being very fussy ladies who have heard all the cheesy lines and downright rude and vulgar attempts to get into our unmentionables before !!!!!
What stood out to me was the "easy lay" reference 
Just because its a swing sight does not mean we are an easy lay!!! I am a sexually aware woman that knows what she wants and likes. I am very perticular in what i want and rarely vary from that...so i am pretty much the opposite of "easy".
After speaking to a friend here another mistake a guy makes here is treating us like we are a prostitute as well :roll: 1.--meeting...having a go..then straight away zipping up and running out the door or 2. how about meeting me in said carpark for a blowjob cuz i don;t have alot of time :roll: HELLO where is the mutual satisfaction or respect there? We know its a swing site and MY only goal is sexual gradification but come on guys ...a little respect will go a long way.
R47...I hope you take Titan's, Avalon's and Ginger's advice on board...you'll be more successful 
so happy hunting ;)
Just because its a swing sight does not mean we are an easy lay!!! I am a sexually aware woman that knows what she wants and likes. I am very perticular in what i want and rarely vary from that...so i am pretty much the opposite of "easy".
After speaking to a friend here another mistake a guy makes here is treating us like we are a prostitute as well :roll: 1.--meeting...having a go..then straight away zipping up and running out the door or 2. how about meeting me in said carpark for a blowjob cuz i don;t have alot of time :roll: HELLO where is the mutual satisfaction or respect there? We know its a swing site and MY only goal is sexual gradification but come on guys ...a little respect will go a long way.
R47...I hope you take Titan's, Avalon's and Ginger's advice on board...you'll be more successful so happy hunting ;) I definitely agree with everyone else, you only get out what you put in and there is no pun intended there - if you don't make an effort (with profile etc) don't expect much back. Also be very careful with your wording as Worship pointed out 'easy lay' when I first read this thread the other day and seen that word I will be honest and say that I thought ' another one with bad grammar 
' but no seriously with 'a bad approach'.
I hope Swing begins to work for you and I'm sure if you take on board all the advice that has been given you will have a blast along the way and more ;)
another one with bad grammar ' but no seriously with 'a bad approach'. I hope Swing begins to work for you and I'm sure if you take on board all the advice that has been given you will have a blast along the way and more ;)
