:sad: right so had my first 3some last saturday and am a bit disappointed. Hubby and I went away for the night and I was determined to get us some action (even posted on here first in the hopes of finding singles or couples). To cut a long story short, I found a man I wanted and who wanted me so I propositioned him, asked him would he be interested in having sex with me while I have my hubby oral etc etc. He jumped at the chance and away we went to the hotel room. My problem is that within 20 mins he came twice and wasn't fit for any more. What I am wondering is if this would be the norm?, I'm 35 and only ever been with my hubby so this was a great eye openner for me, didn't last long enough for must else to get truely opened, the hubby obliged and sent me soaring to a great orgasm. Maybe I just have a ferocious appetite for sex? Needless to say I will try again and I'd appreciate any tips you all have.
Seems a bit odd to be begging for great sex, I just assumed that sex was always great?!?
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Every encounter is different , and there are a lot off elements to considered , nervousness and inhabitations are the most common . Both men and women experience some form off both , It is normal and usually overcome in time and with more meets , Give the chap a break …things don't always work out and there is so much more to be learned with a gentle touch and words off encouragement rather than scolding . Move on to the next adventure open minded and a little wiser . Enjoy what you have experienced and learned from this encounter . As in most things in life will get better and you both as a couple will soon learn what you both need , how to ask for it and how to express it , as will the chap involved , he to is on a learning curve also and playing alone isn't easy for either males or female .
Take your time you'll find what you seek when you least expect to :smile:
I didn't mean to sound like I was chastising the other fella at all! I'm glad to have had the experience and have learned an awful lot especially about myself. The poor fella must have been in shock! He was great, I just was really wondering if I was doing something wrong or could have done something wrong. Now that I read back my original post I sound like an ungrateful, heartless bitch but the truth is I am an inexperienced woman just getting the hang of being permanently turned on! I take on board your comments and thank you xoxoxox
You don't sound heartless or like B hun ... Your human and wondering how things ended as such 
Its normal . I am guessing none off ye have done anything wrong , perhaps a little more getting to know whom your meeting is all that is required , a slower pace , more open chat about needs and expatiations . The trick to any encounter is to be open and honest in all you want and don't want before hand . Fancies are a good thing but in order to have them fulfilled one most be able to express them . One step at a time sure ... whats the rush ( apart from the obvious 
) If you'd like to chat privately drop me a mail ...Not an expert by any means but having someone to run things by at time is not a bad idea :)
Beddy
Its normal . I am guessing none off ye have done anything wrong , perhaps a little more getting to know whom your meeting is all that is required , a slower pace , more open chat about needs and expatiations . The trick to any encounter is to be open and honest in all you want and don't want before hand . Fancies are a good thing but in order to have them fulfilled one most be able to express them . One step at a time sure ... whats the rush ( apart from the obvious ) If you'd like to chat privately drop me a mail ...Not an expert by any means but having someone to run things by at time is not a bad idea :)
Beddy 
I think that's why foreplay was invented? Evens out the pitch between the quick and the slow goers 
I might get shot for this but as most of us are here for sex there is nothing wrong with the expectation that a meet is going to be able to last the distance, yes nerves play a part but dont get into this lifestyle if you cant play with the big boys and girls. The amount of meets we have had where the problems with ercetions have been unreal, it is very off putting, we are very upfront with what we are looking for and show our pics to meets so they can see before hand what we look like so if we are not their thing we wont meet, we dont rush into fucking the second the person gets to our place, we chat for a while and make sure we are all ok to go ahead, and we dont make fun of the men when nothing rises or cums too quick, and dont get me started on these men who say they will rock my world....i am up front and tell them i do not cum with any other man besides my husband so dont waste your time trying, its not them it is me. All this is upfront so if they cant deal with it dont agree to meet. Sorry if this post offends but it is some of our experiances.
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i have to agree with Raven..the amount of times weve met guys and theres problems gets on my nerves to be honest.......not going on a rant but jesus an hour at least guys comon....Jilly
