ive tried to swing but in vain.ive always had a leather & boot fetish to be a dominant male,married 15 years but wife shows no interest .then i found 50 shades in her reading drawer one night. i flicked through the book myself & an idea was planted .i decided on a strategy a plan,. if it didnt work i would go elsewhere .i started on my plan slowly. pateince was required .did it work you bet it did. look forward to sharing results with s4i talk later.