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shavenhaven
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 51
Ireland
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salted or roasted peanutsI don't normally reply to threads like this, but feel having read all the posts that I should comment on some of the 'issues' raised.
Firstly, I have always found, and continue to find the site great fun, and enjoy the banter in the chatrooms, and also in the forums.
It is inevitable in a situation such as this, that site members will form good relationships with others, having chatted on site, and in many cases met up at parties and meet and greets. At times this may be perceived as 'cliques' to members who are not part of the inner circle, however, this is no different than real life - if you went out to the pub and met people you know, you'd have a bit of craic and enjoy their company, whereas you'd be unlikely to engage in conversation with those you don't know. To be honest I don't know that the word 'clique' is therefore used fairly, rather it's a chat between friends with common views and interests.
Any member of this site is fully entitled to be a member of other sites, and in fact a number of the members here were members of other sites before joining swing4ireland. Should being a moderator on this site mean that you can't be involved in other sites if you so choose? Absolutely not.
It surprises me Kerry that you have commented on knowing what goes on behind the scenes. Mods on this site are not permitted to discuss anything about what happens, and as such I can only but assume that you are saying that information has been divulged when it shouldn't have been.
No one is asking you to reveal your sources, however it is worth pointing out at this point that as the saying goes 'there is 2 sides to every story, and then there's the truth'. If comments have been made, it important to remember that you hear that persons side of the story, and as such you should not assume that this is the whole story, as more often than not there is more to it.
I can honestly say that I have never witnessed anyone act outside the aup and done nothing about it. That said, when mods are in chat, they are often dealing with issues behind the scenes, so I guess it's possible that a mod would be in the chatroom but not necessarily notice every little thing that happens. It is up to the members to bring anything they find unacceptable to the mods attention so we can act on it.
You said Kerry about a joke you made in chat, and whilst we will all say things from time to time in the company of friends, it is important to remember as Eden said, that there will be many others there who don't know you, or your sense of humour, and may therefore consider jokes of this nature offensive.
You mentioned giving the members what they want if the site wants to keep people happy. The problem with that is that some people want to be offensive and hurtful to others, some people find no issue in saying what they want to whoever they want, and some people choose to form opinions based on knowing half the facts. I would hazzard a guess that the majority of members don't want that, and by having a moderated site, we hope that issues are nipped in the bud and dealt with appropriately.
Personnel changes are made on site, as in real life, and whilst everyone may not agree with the decision, it again comes back to not knowing all the facts. Admin are in possession of the facts when these decisions are made, and do not make these decisions lightly.
I could safely say that any decision I make is based purely on the situation, and not who is involved in it. If someone breaks the rules, I will treat them exactly the same, whether they are a friend or a member I don't know.
Josh,the fact you are a new member has no bearing on your entitlement to contribute, in fact, I'd like to thank you for speaking out, and putting forward a well thought out response.
This post is my opinion, and no one elses, and in the spirit of openess, I am contibuting to the 'debate'.
Having differing opinions is what makes life more interesting, there is no right or wrong answer, however I think we need to leave the negativity behind. We all have things going on in our personal lives, and many members come on here for a little light relief. Let's make this a fun, welcoming and enjoyable place for all.
Happy swinging!!
